Worried You Won't Cope With Labour Pain and Anxious About Tearing During Birth? 

I gave birth to my daughter at home with NO FEAR, NO DRUGS and NO TEARING.

If you're fretting and feeling alone as you face up to the daunting reality that the beautiful baby growing inside you will have to actually come out some day soon - then let me give you a tough love get a grip, woman! slap before we sit down and squash those fears.

It's in you to have an empowering fearless birth, even if you're naturally skeptical (like I once was) about unlocking your mind-body abilities to control fear and pain.

Now, imagine a different reality where your body is ready and able to birth with ease and you can't wait to experience the power of birth.

Imagine being calm and in control at all stages of your labour, fully supported by your birth partner, both of you armed with the confidence, tools and techniques to have the most beautiful experience of your lives.

YOU CAN DO THIS

As a Hypnobirthing Practitioner, Chartered Physiotherapist, Pilates Instructor and Yoga & Meditation Junkie, I can tell you that your mind and your body are more capable and powerful than you could even imagine. 

This video explains the one strategy you need to follow to have an easy, fast and powerful birth with a calm fearless mindset. 

The Fear-Tension-Pain cycle is explained in this hypnobirthing tutorial and the rest of the classes in the series debunk some myths about birth positioning, labour pain and natural pain control.

Arm yourself with three empowering tools to help you stay out of the Fear-Tension-Pain cycle:

"Birth Like A Boss" is a Free Hypnobirthing Mini Video Course that includes a downloadable MP3 Hypnobirthing Guided Meditation for Pregnancy Relaxation.

 

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IMPROVE FERTILITY CHANCES WITH SELF-CARE LIFESTYLE & ACUPUNCTURE

The great balancing act of fertility energetics. 

In this episode: Listen to my phone conversation with Friday Ng U-Hock, Acupuncturist and Human Givens Therapist. Friday summarises the concepts behind Chinese Medicine and how acupuncture can be helpful in rebalancing the natural energetics in our bodies. He warns that acupuncture, like IVF, is just one form of treatment and is rarely successful if used o n its own.

He recommends self-care and healthy lifestyle changes to boost your chances of conceiving. A very interesting point her makes towards the end of our discussion is that stress is not always a bad thing.

"It's the stuff we're made of [...] that spurs us on".

I love that. Stress has got a bad reputation but if it is harnessed and put to productive use, it can motivate us to make real long-term changes and action better lifestyle choices.  

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3 MINUTE Pregnancy Pilates Yoga Routines

So you're heavy and suffering all sorts of tiny pregnancy niggles from lower back pain, swollen feet and ankles (or "cankles"), carpel tunnel and all sorts!

Well, the reality is that you're bump is only going keep growing and your ligaments will only get more relaxed because of the hormone changes in your body and if you don't work your core or consciously exercise to realign your posture and tone up your core, chances are your symptoms will get worse.

I've seen women who end up on crutches by the end of their pregnancy because they don't do any exercise at the beginning. Pregnancy is like a marathon, you've gotta start preparing your core and constantly adjust as your shape changes. 

Pain and related stress combined with other pregnancy related worries crate a vicious cycle where stress further slumps your posture, misaligning your spine, compresses joints and tenses muscles and irritates nerves. That in turn creates more stress and worry and the vicious circle will not end until you start treating the symptoms and treating the causes of the stress and correcting your posture.

Adopting a mind-body holistic approach will also serve to deepen your connection with baby. While you protect your body, the next step is to relax and prepare your mind for birth so check out these resources: 

How To Relieve Tension Headaches When Pregnant

3 easy Massage Points To Use To Instantly Release Pressure Behind The Eyes and In The Brow That Are Safe To Use When Pregnant 

KNOW THE 3 KEY CAUSES OF HEADACHES AND WHEN YOU SHOULD WORRY THAT IT'S A SIGN OF PRE-ECLAPSIA. 

 

 

Being pregnant isn't all glam all the time and headaches are not uncommon. Before popping a pill straight away as your first reflex, ask yourself: 

  1. Are you thirsty? 
  2. Are you hungry?
  3. Are you tired?
  4. Are your eyes sensitive to light? 

Headaches in pregnancy are often caused by dehydration, hunger, fatigue/lack of or poor quality sleep, or increased light sensitivity. 

Drink plenty of water (not coffee ad tea), little and often. I know you'll be cursing me when you're off to the WC for the 100th time day or night - but hydration too important to be overlooked. You'll thank me when you see how amazing your skin starts to look. 

Headaches can also be cause by hunger. Make sure you graze on fruit and healthy sugar-free snacks between meals to keep those tummy grumbles down and avoid binge eating when you finally realise you're starving. Be keeping your sugar levels steady throughout the day you'll minimise sugar crashes, fatigue and mood swings. 

Creating a little human is hard work and you'll be amazed at how tired you feel, especially in the first and third trimesters. Sleep when you can, cap naps and powers naps make all the difference. If you can, start to meditate regularly once or twice a day. With practice, you'll learn to induce deep relaxation very quickly to max out the benefits of your power naps. 

If you don't know how to meditate, download my guided meditation right here, simple plug in your headphones and get started! 

Combine meditation with some pressure point release - watch the video to learn 3 easy points to press on to instantly release tension. Works best if you visualise pressing on a release valve and letting the steam out of your frown. 

Bonus tip: if you can’t take a nap because you’re at work - ringfence out a 20-30min slot /lunch beak - ask to not be disturbed, put your eye patches or sunnies on and meditate  - if you don’t know how to meditate by yourself then download my guided relaxation MP3 for stress-release.

Mums who use it say they nod instantly and because you’re still hearing when you sleep all the benefits of the positive affirmations continue to trickle down your ears and relax your busy mind and tense body.

when to worry that your headache is a sign of pre-eclampsia?

If your headache pain is constant during the 2nd or 3rd trimesters and none of the above helps, then please consult your doctor, OB, midwife or GP. They can advise you on what medication is best for you and also take your blood pressure. Your BP may be elevated in pregnancy which is fine, however you want to rule it out as a sign of the serious pregnancy condition, pre-eclampsia (preeclampsia). If this is the case you will need further investigations and treatment.

 

Further information on pre-eclampsia: 

http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Pre-eclampsia/Pages/Introduction.aspx

http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/headaches-pregnant.aspx

http://www.babycenter.com/0_headaches-during-pregnancy_2035.bc

 

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how to turn your Husband into the perfect birth partner ?

 

If you don’t prepare him, you’re better off without him! Here’s how:

Birth PLan Step 2: All birth partners need to know the vital tool E-BRAINS

 

Birth partners can make or break your labour and birth experience - choose wisely. If you could only choose one, would you rather have your own mother or the father of your baby attend the birth? Be honest...

 

Does the blood drain from your husband’s face at the mere mention of the words “vaginal birth”?

Don’t feel guilty if you’re secretly wishing your mother could be there instead of him - I did for a long time.

Initially, when I filled out the section of my birth plan that lists your birth partners, I put my mother as my first choice and tagged my husband as back-up. He was petrified about seeing too much and took every public opportunity to confirm out loud - for all to hear - that he sure as hell wouldn’t be “looking south” at any point during the birth.

I wasn’t sure I could trust him to not freak out at little... and if he did then how could he help keep me calm or do anything useful? I didn’t need to have to worry about him too.

Fast forward 9 months and he had to deliver our baby in our living room, catching her in his own hands. Luckily by then, Joe had attended (he wasn’t really given a choice actually) a hypnobirthing course with me and it completely changed him, his attitude towards labour and birth and most of all my confidence in him to be my rock and see me through till the end.

We both felt so empowered by the course that I changed by birth plan listing my husband as my primary birth partner for all situations and my mother as backup. She was supposed to be there on the day but Beatrix came early and my desperate mum was still in France, her Eurostar train ticket booked only for the next day.

She missed the birth by just a few hours and although I was sad for her because I know how much she wanted to be there, her absence didn’t throw me in the slightest - because I had Joe.

A life-changing tool (I’m not even exaggerating) Joe learned to use was the BRAINS method for handling difficult interactions with medical staff at the hospital and over the phone.

It’s an acronym that buys you time and helps you ascertain whether you are being pushed towards unnecessary procedures that could even be more harmful than beneficial to you and baby.

Of course all midwives, nurses and doctors have your best interest at heart but they are used to dealing with the worst case scenarios and so might act too fast preemptively on top of being too often pushed for time.

This helpful acronym buys you tie and allows you to ascertain if your medical team is pushing you towards unnecessary procedures like a transfer to hospital, induction or other premature intervention.  

Start by asking if this: IS THIS A MEDICAL EMERGENCY? If it truly is then shouldn’t be much time to question it and action will be taken. However, if it isn’t then use your B.R.A.I.N.S like so:

B - What BENEFIT is there form the proposed course of action?

R - What are the RISKS of not following their proposal?

A - What ALTERNATIVE actions could be taken?

I - What is the INDICATION for this action? What do your primal INSTINCTS tell you?

N - What happens if I do NOTHING?

S- Don’t forget to SMILE. Challenging an opinion does not have to be aggressive and will not get you any favours. You want your team to be on your side working for you so remain on the same side. Your goals are the same but you are allowed to question everything politely and it won’t get their backs up.

By asking your healthcare professional these questions, it shows states that you are considering all possible courses of action in a methodological way. Getting the facts will clarify if there is a real need or urgency to comply. This will allow you give full consent free of any doubt and therefore free of unnecessary stress that will hormonally affect your labour and pain levels.

The minimum effect of this techniques is that It creates space and time to think things through so you no longer feel pressurised. In some cases however it can be life changing. It might change the entire course of your birth experience for the better by discrediting a proposal that is not actually needed and that could do more harm than good.

My cousin regrets being pressured into being induced, which led to a long and painful birth. It’s only with hindsight that she wishes she had such a tool at her fingertips. She didn’t feel that there was enough factual explanation. Being told “don’t you want what’s best for baby?” is NOT a respectable response to your questioning. If fact it’s patronising and contains do facts for reasoning.

Hospitals are notorious for contracting infections, and one that is often overlooked is “white coat syndrome”. Unless you or baby has a predetermined medical condition, you are NOT entering the labour ward as a PATIENT. You are a MOTHER and your role is to protect baby and yourself from unintended harm. Your birth partner is now armed with the right words to protect you and buffer these discussions so you can remain calm and focused on going into yourself. Remember that releasing your fears for an easier birth is at the heart of hypnobirthing practice so minimising new sources of stress is equally important.

BONUS TIPS:

Have a backup birth partner or two you can call at short notice in case your 1st choice can’t make it on the day. Ideally, someone who has read through your birth plan and feels confident supporting you in the way you want them to, especially if you're a hypnobirthing mum. 

Follow those up E-BRAINS with “please give us some space to go over what you have said and we’ll let you know when she’s made her decision.' At risk of putting staff on the back foot for a split second, it’s worth it to maintain control of your situation because then whatever you decide, you are more likely to do so confidently and comfortably without being rushed and with no regrets.

Dads and birth partners, download this cheat sheet, stick it in with your birth plan and memorise it. On the big day ask the questions whenever you feel the need to.

This was STEP 2 of a comprehensive 10-part guide to writing a practical birth plan that you’ll actually use. You can read and watch the specific youtube videos for each sections and fill in your birth plan as you learn.

  1. Download the exact same template that I used here for free. It’s word document so you can type directly into it or print it out to make notes as you watch the videos. Here’s the overview:
  2. Where should I give birth? The pros and cons of home vs hospital vs midwife-led birth centre.
  3. Birth partners: What do they do and who do I want with me during birth and interventions?
  4. What equipment should I bring with me and what can I borrow from hospital and midwife-led birth centre?
  5. PAIN RELIEF: what are my options?
  6. Birth position, birth pools, labour activity and monitoring baby during labour.
  7. How do I deal with invasive interventions (episiotomy, forceps, ventouse etc…)?
  8. What’s so important about immediate skin to skin and the APGAR test?
  9. Cord clamping and cutting: when - who - how?
  10. Birthing the placenta (after-birth)
  11. Feeding a newborn baby and the first medical decisions you make for them.  


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Disclaimer: This Birth Plan template and guide is based on publically available NHS information, the professional and personal experiences of Lynn JT, lead coach of Achieve The Birth You Want™. Every pregnancy needs to be monitored in person by professional medical staff who will provide personal medical advice specific to your pregnancy circumstances. A birth plan only displays preferences but by no means or form does it guarantee a specific labour and birth outcome. All birth plans should be reviewed and discussed fully with your professional birthing team.

 

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HOW TO WRITE A BIRTH PLAN (Video #1)

Hospitals are not necessarily the safest place to give birth so don't write off the idea of birthing your baby at home or in a midwife led centre until you've read this! Download your free birth plan template and easy 10-step guide that walks you through taking control of your plans. 

Coming Soon...

Hello sexy mama!

You know I LOVE messing around on my parenthood YouTube channel but really there are some things that are better said in text...

MAYBE there are some things that are just too damn PERSONAL to blurt out in front of the camera but that I still desperately need to share with you... so I'm starting a blog haha and you know what? I'm feeling it. 

My baby girl is growing up fast (already two-and-a-half-going-on-sixteen I swear ><) and I wanna do it all over again!

My first pregnancy was mixed with equal amounts of magic and BS, like loving my new curves but cursing my new A-Z road map belly tattoo (bloody stretch marks...) 

So this time I'll be prepared 'cuz I'm doing the research now and recording it here to share with you everything I learn:

  • Finding solutions to those pesky pregnancy itches, leaks, discomforts and insecurities that get in the way of you looking and feeling great during this supposedly "glowing" life-phase.
  • Discovering the best tips to prepare mentally and physically for labour and childbirth.

Lets make this a two-way dialogue, a cozy conversation over chocolate cake and freakin' decaf coffee... You want in? 

 

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